In house parenting, parents determine the child's independence. Children aged 2-3 years had in fact can be trained independently. But not a few toddlers who are accustomed to doing things with the help or the "intervention" caregivers and parents. Children are always served his needs. If you have this, do not be surprised if a child is difficult to completely independent because they already served.
But take it easy, you can still change the pattern already established that. Here's how to change it, as suggested by Alzena Masykouri, MPsi, the mouse deer, Jakarta.
1. Compact
Talking to children and people in the neighborhood, ie grandparents, and caregivers. The goal is that there equality of treatment of children so that what becomes the target is reached.
All should be under one command, namely parents, how the methods to be pursued in children independent.
2. Be patient
Next, begin to implement the independent program children. Avoid angry when children are "old" to do something. Remember, everything takes the process.
But take it easy, you can still change the pattern already established that. Here's how to change it, as suggested by Alzena Masykouri, MPsi, the mouse deer, Jakarta.
1. Compact
Talking to children and people in the neighborhood, ie grandparents, and caregivers. The goal is that there equality of treatment of children so that what becomes the target is reached.
All should be under one command, namely parents, how the methods to be pursued in children independent.
2. Be patient
Next, begin to implement the independent program children. Avoid angry when children are "old" to do something. Remember, everything takes the process.
3. Communication
Convey what the expectations of parents. Just say, for example, "already a big sister. So, from now Big Brother can bathe themselves, yes."
Give directions in a tone flat and short, not too fast because the child's attention span is still short. Like, "Yes, now open shoes and socks, yes. Store in a shoe rack." It could also be with the phrase, "Let whoever is the most rapid wear shoes, father or brother?"
4. Consistent
When children get bored, feel inadequate, feel forced, then your program will fail to train the child independent. Tell him, "All this needs you. If you do not want to eat alone, I'll feel hungry." So, still provide support, not aid.
5. Appreciation
When the child managed to reach a target of self-reliance, provide rewards that make the child feel proud of himself. Children will feel confident and believe that it is capable of doing yourself.
It is important to remember, ask the child to do something does not mean you do not care or do not want to watch the child. Other people might judge you as "Queen or heart King", leave it alone. After all, you do it without violence, threats, or punishment. In principle, you want to change the paradigm has always helped and this served. What also needs to be remembered, in the coming era of competition is very tight. When children are not independent from an early age, he was not ready for it.
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